If you delivered your baby with no complications, you will be able to spend  an hour  or so  stroking, holding and looking at your baby.  This period has been labelled by researchers as a sensitive period because babies are usually alert and very responsive.

What is bonding ?

 
It is an intense attachment that develops between parents and their baby. It is this feeling that makes parents want to shower the babies with love and affection and protect and care for the baby.

The first exchange of eye contact, sound and touches between the parent and baby are all part of the boding process. Bonding lays the foundation for a relationship between parent and baby.

Bonding may take place within the first few minutes or hour or even days for some parents while it may take longer for other people. It is  normal not to have warm feelings for your baby immediately.  Labor can be very demanding and all you may be thinking about at this time is that it is finally over.  You may be exhausted and emotionally drained and you may just want  to rest. Give yourself some time to rest and then request for the baby. Bonding has no time limit.

Some people  may  not be able to bond with your baby right . This is because the baby may be taken to  nursery for medical attention or you may be sedated during delivery. Dont worry. This will not destroy the bond and relationship you should have with your child.

What are the best ways to bond with your baby ?

 
There is no strict rule to follow when it comes to bonding but these steps may help.

• look into your bay’s eyes and talk and sing to her regularly
• have skin to skin contact and gently stroke your baby
• if your baby is in the neonatal intensive care unit  and hooked to all sorts of machines, you can ask the health care staff how to safely hold and touch your baby

 
You will eventually get to know your baby and discover the best way to bond with her.

NOTE

If after a few  weeks you still don’t feel comfortable or attached to your baby than the first day or if you feel resentful toward the baby, talk to your partner, you baby’s doctor or your own doctor. It could be a sign of postpartum depression. In this case you will need help. The earlier you get help, the more easy it will be for you to win your baby’s trust and affection.
 
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