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My Battle with Postpartum Depression

The New Little Man in My Life

 

Becoming a mother is supposed to be a magical time for a woman.  My first pregnancy was full of promise and excitement. I named my son, Brendan, the moment I found out I was having a boy and whispered his name to my growing midsection while still in the doctor’s office.
 
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When Brendan was finally born, an unbridled amount of adrenaline coursed through my body for days. He was a joy to be around. I gazed into his bright blue eyes, trying to channel the love I felt straight through to him. I had really never been around a baby before, but I was determined to be the best mother ever and do everything perfectly.

 

When Things Go Wrong

 

It’s hard to pinpoint the exact moment I crashed. I was already feeling my emotions at the surface and shifted from laughter to tears in a split second, but the “high” that I had been on since Brendan’s birth quickly turned into something sinister. The tears became constant and unrelenting. I would hear Brendan’s cry from the next room, but couldn’t respond. I was lucky enough to have family to help in those early days. Brendan would be presented to me freshly bathed and wearing a new outfit, but I could only cry and think about how I should have been the one to bathe and dress him.
 
“That’s not Glenna,” I overheard my mother-in-law tell my husband. She was right. I was like a zombie. I felt I’d failed at the most important job I would ever have, and I was terrified at the idea that I had potentially lost my mind. I heard the family downstairs enjoying Brendan, giggling over every cute thing he would do. It only made me hurt more. I beat myself up with a vengeance. Millions of mothers were able to take care of their new babies. What was wrong with me?

 

Seeking Help

 

When I had my 6-week checkup, my doctor asked me how everything was going. I burst into tears and told my story. He nodded his head, pulled out a prescription pad and wrote “Zoloft” on it. He said I would feel better after a few weeks. He also referred me to a therapist to learn coping skills. As days went by, I began to eat and sleep again. I also began to take over Brendan’s care. I felt a sense of accomplishment for each little thing I was able to do for him. I finally felt like I was really his mother, and the shame I had felt began to slowly vanish.

 

The How and Why?

 

I later researched postpartum depression and learned that a woman’s HCG level, which builds to an astronomical amount as pregnancy progresses, virtually plummets as soon as the baby is born, which can trigger postpartum depression from a mild to severe degree. Also, if there is a predisposition for depression in your family, you have a higher chance of it happening to you.

 

The antidepressant helped battle my brain chemistry that had gone haywire. The pressure of becoming a first-time mother with very little experience with children also contributed to my shameful feelings. My expectations were way too high. I had read every baby book before Brendan was born and thought I knew everything; however, every child is unique, and only you can learn how to take care of YOUR baby. Medication and therapy helped put my synapses back in order, and I not only became able to do all the “technical” things Brendan needed, but I began to experience the joy of being his mother that I craved all along. The more confident I felt, the stronger our bond grew. I was never a perfect mom, but I learned I was good enough as long as he felt loved and cared for.

 

Glenna Scott

Florida
 

February 21, 2019 | 5:55 28    By Blogger    

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